No compromise

I don't believe we should compromise in order to keep relationships. OK, let me clarify that: I don't think we should compromise OURSELVES in order to keep relationships.

Yes, I know. Pot, kettle and black spring to mind. But I'm determined to not be that woman any more.

What I mean is compromises along the lines of:

• Sleep with someone in order to keep them.
• Move in with them because they're not prepared to marry, in order to keep them.
• Go for a non-Christian (or whatever faith you hold) because despite wanting a strong, faith-led husband, there aren't any around you'd consider, but would rather be married.
• Give up on their other activities or faith in order to appease a partner who doesn't want them to be that way, in order to keep them.
  

I feel sad when I see friends drop, one by one, away from their faith because of a guy. Because it's usually us women who compromise in order to keep a man. Because we have less time, if we want children; have less choice in churches; and want to please more than perhaps a man does.

I don't want to compromise any more. I pray I will have the strength never to do so again.